Category Archives: children

Continuing with violence and women

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Really not trying to be a downer on Valentines Day, but just wanting to give balance to the dripping love fest–

First, the national hotline for domestic violence:  800-799-7233

Jovan Belcher

War and Domestic Violence connection.

Verbal abuse is just as damaging.

Laws and lawmakers that don’t protect and support women.

VAWA and Native American women.  Update here.  Thank you, President Obama.

Tribal governments — police, prosecutors, and courts — are essential to the response to these crimes, but have long lacked the authority to address them effectively.  Prior to TLOA’s enactment, no matter how violent the offense, tribal courts could sentence Indian offenders to only one year in prison. Even worse, since a U.S. Supreme Court decision in 1978, tribal courts have had no authority to prosecute a non-Indian who commits domestic violence, even if he lives on the reservation, works for the tribe, and is married to a tribal member.

Not surprisingly, abusers who are not arrested are more likely to repeat, and escalate, their attacks. Research shows that law enforcement’s failure to arrest and prosecute abusers both emboldens attackers and deters victims from reporting future incidents. In short, the jurisdictional framework in Indian country has left many serious acts of domestic violence and dating violence unprosecuted and unpunished. The reauthorization of VAWA signed by President Obama will empower Indian tribes to protect all Native American women in Indian country, at long last.

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To go a little further with my post from yesterday, on missing Native American women, here is a map of women missing and murdered.  Pretty sobering. (click on the red spots, and a list will pop up).

Black women and domestic violence.…same sad story of an intimate partner abusing them.

Shelah Harper knows all too well the reality behind all those numbers. On Nov. 7, 2004, her daughter, Asia Adams, a 21-year-old West Chester University student, was brutally murdered by an ex-boyfriend and his friend. It was in the basement of Harper’s Philadelphia home (she was out of town at the time) where Thomas Strode, who Adams had been dating for four months, and his accomplice, Simeon Bozic, beat Adams with a shovel before cutting her throat several times. A day later, the two would set the house on fire to cover up their crime. They also withdrew money from Adams’ ATM card and went on a shopping spree.

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Utter depravity.  What’s really scary is that she was only seeing him four months–this wasn’t even a long term relationship she had broken off.   Which goes to show that our misperception of the act of domestic violence being about love is wrong…it’s about possession and control and boundaries.  Someone who violates another has no perception of boundaries and another’s right to their own autonomy.
Kudos to Sheilah Harper for redirecting that negative energy and anger into a positive one by helping get the word out.

Lastly, the post of the recent show on DN! about domestic violence and how women are still not believed, still not taken seriously, and blamed for their abuse.

The next question with this is what makes a good relationship?  Well, I don’t pretend to have the answers to that one–but here are some thoughts:

–He recognizes that you are a separate person in your own right. This means you have a right to your own opinions.

–He recognizes that you have a right to say “no” to intimacy and that he is not entitled to sex.

–He values your opinion.  He asks for your advice and considers your thoughts on an issue.

–He doesn’t put you down, in public or in private.

–He sees you as his equal, as much value as he, whether you work in or out of the home.

–He compromises.

–He genuinely likes you, honors you, respects you.

Basically, it’s the golden rule–treating you as he wishes to be treated.  Pretty simple.

 

 

 

 

Honoring dead and missing women

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Idle No More has this up on a day to honor dead and missing Indigenous women.  I would like to expand that to all women—missing, dead, beaten, and raped.

Unfortunately, it’s in Canada…but yeah, if you’re not there, perhaps you could just take that time from 10:00 to 12:00 p.m. to meditate on that.  Not only on that, but how we can heal our society so that women are not seen as second class or “less than” for being….women.

Some suggestions:

–Say a prayer.

–Make a list of what you can do personally to stop the rape/violence against women culture.

–Change your thinking of hierarchy–that one must be “above” or “below” another.  And that one’s material wealth is equal to their spiritual worth.

–Examine the media.  Truly examine how the media sends messages of women’s worth.

–Listen to women.  Listen to what they tell you they want–don’t try to put your own ideas on to women.  And don’t, for pete’s sake, make us all one homogenous group….we are all individuals with different ideas, needs, wants, and goals.

The $$ behind destroying unions

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…in this case, the big bad teacher’s unions.  They are portrayed as taking away the civil rights of children…by billionaires who are paying their parents less than livable wages…so they can have even bigger bank accounts and totally take over public education.

Meanwhile,Diane has this up on the Schools as Soap Operas, brought to you by corporate profiteers.

Additionally, Reclaim Reform has this up on the hypocrites of reform.  Pretty sobering.

But wait…here is some good news–Pittsburgh schools cancel contract with Teach for America.  Yay!

 

 

Starving in America **edited

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Politicker has this up on Jerry Nadler speaking out on the republican plan of decreasing the surplus population–through even more cuts to food stamps..in a  Depression…oh, wait, we’re not supposed to call it a Depression…my bad.

I’ve debated back and forth whether to write about my situation with the state.  Like so many people on food stamps, it’s humiliating to have to beg for food.  It’s humiliating to go to job interviews and not get that call, even though the interviewers seem to like you….then you are called lazy and unmotivated by these republican (and some Democrats) jackasses….so they’re going to “help you” not be lazy and unmotivated…

Briefly, I did get them reinstated…BUT the state pulled a number out of its arse that isn’t even reflecting of what I am bringing home.

Gah, this is hard talking about, but here goes:  I made a total of $520.00 since September.  The average of those months is $130.00 per month…before taxes.  The state has done some fuzzy math and now deemed me making $260.00 + what my son gives me.  I told them that he only helps me out if I don’t make enough to cover my supplements and vitamins (which keep me healthy until I can get this horrible poison out) and my gas and the basics like laundry detergent, soap, shampoo, etc.   I really hate having to ask him for money, so if he does help out, it’s never over $100, unless the car needs work or some emergency comes up.  He signed a paper stating such.

So…they decided that he helps me out *every* month, regardless, which is a lie.

Even with all the false money that I don’t have coming in, the total they have assigned is…$360.00 per month.

And they cut my food stamps because apparently I’m living high on the hog at their false total of $360. Yep.

This does not take into account taxes taken out, gas to get back and forth to work, and the weather, which has impaired my ability to work.  They don’t take into account that the car needs tires, a transmission fluid change, and other maintenance just so I can make it to work.  Doesn’t matter to them.

According to them, I’m making $360, with no taxes to pay and no other expenditures.

$143 is all they will give me for an entire month’s worth of groceries.  And now they want to cut that even more.  They spend more than that on a month’s worth of coffee.

Oh, and what was that about the automatic pay raises of Congress?  You can’t “make it” on $100,000 per year?

Mitt Romney and his cronies, gutting jobs while raking in the cash….and looking the other way while people go hungry.

My post on being lazy and unmotivated here.

My other posts on food stamps  here, here, and here.

My piece on the media slamming the poor ..I should note that I also saw the South Bend station doing the exact.same.thing within months after this piece aired.

So…you can’t find a job, you’ve got food stamps that don’t last a month, and you’re not supposed to beg for money…vicious, heartless, and punitive.

And when the sociopaths talk about wanting to cut food stamps because of fraud, they neglect to mention  the program is one of the best run with only a 3% error rate!

Meanwhile, they look the other way at rampant fraud with the Dept. of Defense….and the welfare queens of McDonald’s and Walmart.

 

**edited to add:  I just want to make it plain that this is not a pity post.  Like I said in the previous post, we don’t want your stinking charity.  We want jobs with livable wages.

Wisconsin Senator reveals plan to close public schools

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Well, those of us following the Education fiasco already knew this, but perhaps the doubters will finally realize the school profiteers have wanted to close public schools all along.

“For the next several years, 5% of public schools must be named as failing – even if those schools weren’t failing by current standards. With few exceptions, schools that failed for three years would be required to close or be operated by an independent private charter management company with a minimum five-year contract. Local school boards would have little authority over this company for five years. For Milwaukee, this change would apply to schools that failed for just one year.”

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Elizabeth Warren, et al, come out against XL Pipeline

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Well, I’m glad that these folks have come out against the XL Pipeline.

This is, essentially, a rebellion by 22 progressive congressional Democrats against the Clinton-Obama effort to provide a market for the Kochs’ oil. The letter was actually written by Representative Henry Waxman and Senator Sheldon Whitehouse, and co-signed by senators Barbara Boxer, Ed Markey, Dick Durbin, Jeff Merkley, and Elizabeth Warren; and Representatives John Conyers, Jr., Barbara Lee, Raúl M. Grijalva, Rush Holt, Louise M. Slaughter, Jerrold Nadler, Judy Chu, Peter DeFazio, Anna G. Eshoo, Sam Farr, Peter Welch, Alan Lowenthal, Mark Pocan, and Steve Cohen.

 

Note how deeply involved Hillary Clinton is in XL– how Paul Elliott, a former staff member, is a lobbyist for TransCanada, along with David Goldwyn.

Secretary Clinton’s State Department allowed the environmental impact statement on the proposed Keystone XL Pipeline to be performed by a petroleum industry contractor that was chosen by the company that was proposing to build and own the pipeline, TransCanada. That contractor had no climatologist, and the resulting report failed even at its basic job of estimating the number of degrees by which the Earth’s climate would be additionally heated if the pipeline is built and operated. Its report ignored that question and instead evaluated the impact that climate change would have on the pipeline, which was estimated to be none.

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Be sure to click on this link about the March, 2013,  XL Pipeline “environmental report” as a hoax.

[…] Therefore, the reason no calculation was done of the XL pipeline’s global-warming impact appears to be that no one who was involved in the study had any climatological expertise or interest.

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But be that as it may: it is by now clear that the State Department’s Draft “Environmental Impact Statement” on XL is neither by the State Department, nor does it address the pipeline’s impact on global warming, nor was anyone who had expertise on global warming even involved in its preparation. The report is thus a triple-hoax, so that to call it fraudulent would put the matter mildly.

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Note that the Obama Administration is trying to force the EU to purchase the Koch Brothers’ dirty oil.  Unreal.

Additionally, I don’t see it mentioned in the article, but I have a huge concern about the petcoke byproduct of this dirty oil that will make its way to Whiting, Indiana.  This is devastating to our environment and the people breathing this toxic garbage.  It seems to me that Indiana has become the garbage can of the Kochs and others who have nowhere else to dump this stuff.  Like I said before, they should start dumping this stuff on the Koch’s lawn, and see how long it takes them to change their minds about the petcoke (haha, I first typed “petchoke”…really, more accurately describes its affects on the lungs of people).

 

Tweeting…is a threat…?

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I had to watch this video (top) twice because I couldn’t believe what I was seeing–from a distance, it looks like a couple talking…he even has his arm around her like a good friend, and then *boom* he starts to haul her off.  She showed no weapon, was not yelling or otherwise threatening anyone…I was just stunned.

Even more stunning? How everyone else just allowed it to happen.  She had every right to be there and Harper and his goons had no right to interfere with that.

In the second video, she is saying that she wasn’t even tweeting–that she did not have her phone.  So they’re lying on top of taking away her rights?

Tweeting is not a threat.  Freedom of Speech is not a threat.

 

The Education Show

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Seriously, these folks are running schools by script.  Unbelievable. (from Diane Ravitch’s blog)

As Diane says, it’s dangerous to speak out….but this has been going on in the private sector for quite some time–somehow, one’s right to Freedom of Speech stops at the corporate door.

So now it has reached the Education doors….and that is why Bill Clinton, Bill Gates, et al, have tried to destroy teacher’s unions.  It’s much harder to fire a teacher who speaks out against corruption when that teacher belongs to a strong union that stands behind her or him.  That’s kind of the bully playbook—separate people into aloneness, and attack.  It’s much easier to take one down than a group.

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More on Education--this post is just sickening.  Depressing as hell that Pearson has now monopolized the United States Education system.

This post from Mom of Five is alarming:

My daughter’s principal just informed me that she doubts any California district will ever order a textbook again: Everything bought in the future will be digital. Her school has pretty much phased out textbooks already and at my mom’s high school the district just got rid of over 4,000 books from the library. Even though the high school has just been built (3 weeks ago) I find it sad that the library is very small. Instead, there are numerous “student lounges” where kids go to hang out.

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Really disturbing.  Of course, the technology terrorists will wrap this in a “progress” blanket to quash any objections to it.  We’ve been sold this line of garbage that anything new in technology is automatically a good thing and means we are “progressing”.  What does that mean, exactly?  They don’t really say.  All it is is something “new”.  They know that marketers put “new” and “improved” on can labels so that consumers will buy it…doesn’t matter that it’s the same stuff as before and “improved” is a subjective word.

And if you notice the comment of teachingeconomist, the resident troll, he uses the word “nostalgic” as a code word for “you’re so far behind the times clinging to the past…”  to shut people up…

I see farther down the comments that Mom of Five had the same sentiment:

Momoffive

February 8, 2014 at 9:56 am

Oh yeah, I forgot the best part…she let me know that the reason I’m having a problem with all this is because “us older parents” have a difficult time with change and moving into the global 21st century.”

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Diane has probably blogged on this, but with all the information out there, I have trouble keeping up–Valerie Strauss (God love her) has this up on the Bush connection to this education fiasco.

More here from an old post at dailykos.  I think I may have posted this before–but doesn’t hurt to repost…easier to keep up with the octopus of education $$.

 

Woody Allen speaks

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The NY Times has a rebuttal  by Woody Allen on the child molestation allegations.  Since I posted Dylan Farrow’s letter, I feel it only fair to give the same to Allen.

The piece not only doesn’t change my mind, but reaffirms my belief that he most likely did molest Dylan Farrow.  Allen attacks Mia with the tired “scorned woman” defense with “evidence” that is questionable.  Mia acted as any mother would act if she found the father in a sexual relationship with the daughter (Soon-Yi) .  What kind of deviant takes nude pictures of his girlfriend’s daughter? 

He stated that he “passed” the lie detector test, but fails to state that his own lawyer had a friend do the test–it was not administered by police. And they are notorious for giving false results. 

A commenter provided a link to the court documents of their custody battle.  It’s pretty damning.  Woody Allen had been giving sole attention to Dylan, while ignoring the other children.  Others noted inappropriate actions towards Dylan BEFORE the affair with Soon-Yi, Mia’s adopted daughter, most notably the event in the TV room. 

Even before the Soon-Yi affair, Allen was not giving Dylan appropriate physical space–he was not honoring boundaries–a red flag.  The judge stated that Allen’s behavior with Dylan was inappropriate.

The conclusion stated that Allen had not demonstrated any parenting skills that would allow him to have custody of any of the children.  He did not consider the consequences of his actions with Soon-Yi.  He was oblivious to it.

Additionally, Allen had an affair with a girl of 17 years of age while he was 42—a twenty-five year difference….so there is history there of him with much, much younger women who are more vulnerable to manipulation and/or abuse.  I’m not saying that age difference is a sole factor–if a 40 year old woman is seeing a 65 year old man, that is hugely different than a young woman of 17.  Choosing vulnerable women of that age speaks volumes.

 

McSchools

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Diane Ravitch has a great blog up today on one family’s monopoly on charters in Minnesota and the resulting segregation.

A great comment by Reteach for America explains just how charters actually give parents less choice…and less power…when it comes to their child’s education:

Charter schools have no civic responsibility.

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Many parents don’t realize this lack of democratic representation or really any say whatsoever in their children’s school is a serious issue until they have a concern about the charter and the charter tells them they are welcome to shop for another school. When they turn to the district for help, they’re often told the same thing. You don’t like McDonalds? Go to Burger King.

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So, imagine that your town no longer has independent restaurants, but only McDonald’s, Burger King, or any other national chain….you dislike the fast food and wish for a home-cooked meal that fits your diet…none of these chains have decent food, so you no longer have a choice.  You either eat the stuff that resembles food, or you stay home.  They don’t care about you, as an individual, but only YOU as a collective group to profit off of…

….this is essentially what charters like the ones in Minnesota are doing.  McSchools.