This is such a hard subject for me, because I’ve been from one extreme to the other with my feelings on it. And feminists marginalize those women who believe in equality but have reservations about abortion. It’s probably one of the biggest reasons that the women’s movement lost steam in the 70s.
When I was younger, before I had my children, I thought abortion was okay. But when I had my children, I thought that it was wrong. But I have seen the horrible picture of the woman who was so desperate that she had her boyfriend use a coat hangar on her to abort her pregnancy. She died of an embolism. I don’t want us to go back to that, but at the same time, I feel that there needs to be restrictions. The heart starts beating at six weeks.
I learned something from Bill Moyers’ book published in the 80s–it stated that Europe is not as lenient about abortion as America is. This shocked me–thinking that Europe has always been more open and “liberal’ about stuff, I presumed that they were of the mind that a woman could have an abortion at any time. Nope. Here is a list of the countries and their abortion policy. Most of them cut off abortion at 12 weeks, even for rape. They only make exceptions for the physical and mental health of the mother, but even then, there are some cut-off dates. The book stressed that the Europeans have a much more supportive structure in that they educate women and men on contraceptives. And if a woman has the baby, she is supported the first five years of life. Amazing, isn’t it??
In the not too distant past, women were not informed on how to prevent a pregnancy (Comstock laws) . They were having five and six kids and desperate not to have another when they became pregnant again. They were too poor and uneducated to provide for the children they did have….what were they to do?
We’ve had politicians who want to deny women the means to prevent pregnancy, but then they also want to deny them abortion. It makes absolutely no sense. And when those children arrive, they will deny them food stamps and decent housing.
Educating women and men is key.
Providing safe contraceptives is also key. (Despite the popular idea that birth control pills are safe, there are many, many problems with them. I have read that gluten intolerance is linked to them, but now can’t find the reference. )
Spermicidal foam had been found to have mercury in it. More here on other issues with it. As far as I know, sponges are safe, but since they also contain N-9 there are issues.
Some women use the natural sea sponge for menstruation as well as a contraceptive. I had heard that the ladies of days past used the sea sponges.
Here’s a report from a lady who had issues with chemically treated sponges. On another site, a poster said she had heard that honey was a natural spermicide. Interesting. Here’s another site that had a brand of spermicide that is non-chemical. It’s made in the UK, however, and I don’t know whether it’s available here. I looked on their website, and it says there is an extra charge for shipping outside of Europe. If one is interested, probably best to contact them and ask.
So…a complicated subject with emotions running high and no quick, easy answers.
It’s not easy for women to prevent a pregnancy in a safe way. Why is that?
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