To Love. Honor. Cherish–vows given when walking down the aisle.

It all seems surreal, for some, when reality sets in:

ABC News has this up on the choking incident with Nigella Lawson and her husband.  Her husband actually tried to dismiss what happened by saying it was a “playful tiff”.  Her face tells her anguish.

His dismissal is typical of abusers–they either dismiss their abuse as being “exaggerated” or they will say she deserved it.

I don’t care what she said that made him angry.  He has no right to put his hands on her. None. Nada. Zilch.  If he is that angry, he needs to stop himself and back away from the situation…put distance between him and her until he can calm down enough to have a rational discussion about the disagreement.  When a man feels he can put his hands on a woman, he fails to see her as a person in her own right with a right to her own opinion and a right to voice that opinion.  This goes along with rape, as well.  That’s why I say rape is a cultural problem–it’s the view that women are not equals, that they should be subservient to men.

It’s when I see stories like this that I am glad that I’m single.  If my man abused me, I could walk away.

Yeah, I’ll probably be single until I die.

Or until  our rape /domestic violence culture  changes

Not holding my breath on that one…