This is just too, too much.  And all too common.

I mean, really, this line of questioning is just soooo over the top: (from the link to the Daily Tar Heel)

“The woman student said to me, ‘Landen, as a woman, I know that if that had happened to me, I would’ve broken up with him the first time it happened. Will you explain to me why you didn’t?’” she said.

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WTH?  She *must* be lying because she stayed with him after the first time it happened.  And using her depression and suicide attempt–manifestations of the abuse–is totally disgusting.  And to top it all off, they give confidential details to her parents!  And they’re claiming that these folks received training….?  Seriously?  Well, now, methinks that training was…well…worthless…probably based on Freudian concepts of women and sex .  /snark

(In the comments section of the common dreams link, the first comment is just priceless:

Domestic violence victims, whether they be abused sexually, or physically (with fists) or verbally will NOT likely leave after the first time the abuse happens.  As I posted here, he will say “I’m sorry.  I love you baby, I’d never want to hurt you. It will never.happen.again.”  And she’s hooked back in.  This is what they call the “honeymoon period” where they will get along great and everything seems like it is going well.

…until the next time where she asserts herself and he again abuses her to control her.

It is inexcusable that this “court” was abusing the victim all over again, which is what the question above is–it’s not about trying to find out what happened–it’s about assigning blame.

And it’s ALWAYS the woman’s fault.  She made him do it.  She was uppity.  She didn’t cook the meal right, or clean the house right or make love to him enough times that week…whatever the excuse is…

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Along those lines is the Pestorius case.  He beat her with a bat before he shot her. There was one report of another former girlfriend who was glad to get away from Pistorius because of his abuse.  But you didn’t hear that from the news networks.  ABC News was worse than most with a *cough* report that put Pistorius in the best possible light–highlighting another former girlfriend who said he was great.  It was so lopsided I sat there in stunned disbelief.  It never brought up the fact that if Pistorius had to have taken the time to put on his prosthetics, he would have had time to see that his girlfriend was no longer in the bed…wouldn’t that be a signal that she was the one in the bathroom?

And what have I heard from the networks now that this new information about him beating her?  Nothing. Nada. Zilch.

See…if you’re a famous athlete, you can get away with murder, folks.  Just ask O.J. Simpson.