I usually try not to comment on stars, but this is just too much and I have to say something.
I would think that community service would be better spent working in a domestic violence shelter. Or some other service that actually would have an impact on him, because as the article states, he still has a violent temper and is not addressing it. He just doesn’t get it.
The article states that he had logged 701 hours in seven months. 701 divided by seven means he had to have performed 100 hours of service in each month–the equivalent of three hours per day, roughly. Yeah, I’d be a questioning the truth of that, also.
The article goes on to say that peace officers had verified the work done. So there’s obviously a disconnect somewhere…
Going on to the bigger issue of domestic violence~~
Report on Rihanna. This report says “Robyn” so I presume that Rihanna is a stage name? Photo of her face after the beating.
Rihanna has probably convinced herself that he “didn’t mean to do it” and “he’ll never do it again” and “he said he was sorry and it was because of blah, blah,blah that he got so mad….” (You can tell this by the above link to his demanding respect that he is playing the victim and blaming everyone and everything else for his behavior. He is in no way taking responsibility for his actions. )
Like every woman ever subjected to domestic violence, she is probably blaming herself.
She tries really hard to please him. He calls her stupid, lazy, worthless. She tries harder to please him, but every day he finds something to criticize about her. She tries harder and is walking on egg shells trying not to displease him.
But she can never achieve that because he will always find fault with her. It’s his way to control her.
And if she does find even an ounce of self-worth and begins to stand up for herself…
…that’s when the beatings begin…for backtalking him. For telling him, no, I don’t want to cook that meal again, or I don’t want to watch that movie or I don’t want to spend money on that or whatever the circumstance is…
And he’ll justify the beating for her disobedience. And she’ll think that he’s right because she got out of line…
Sadly, I don’t have a lot of hope for Rihanna because the flags are up all over the place. I am afraid for her.
It is a very difficult situation. He may have a good side and that’s the side she loves, which makes it hard for her to leave.
It is said that it often takes several times for a woman to leave a relationship for good. And it’s also the most dangerous time for her. Women have been killed trying to leave their abuser.
And he won’t change unless he sees that his controlling behavior is a problem. He won’t change unless he wants to. No one can make him–it has to come from within. He has to want to change. Most abusive men don’t see that they are the problem. They see *everyone else* as the problem.
And this cuts across all socioeconomic levels–professionals as well as blue collar; whites as well as blacks; judges, doctors, police, and politicians….there are no boundaries. And someone who could seem so “nice” in public can be a monster in private….
Here’s the national domestic violence hotline. 800-799-SAFE.
Here’s a recent story on a young boy who shot his father as a result of domestic violence. Incredibly, they aren’t seeing this as self-defense, even though the father was beating the children.
And another story that may not seem related to this, but is–a young 5 year old girl in a California day care was having oral sex with the boys there. That child had to have seen that somewhere because five year olds are too young to engage in that behavior unless they had exposure to it via p_rn or, as I suspect, being molested. I fear that she was subjected to this at home, and was acting out. I can only hope that someone recognizes this and will get to the source of her abuse and get her the appropriate help.
What a troubled world.
Eagle 
